The Bachelor - Episode 4

What to say, what to say!

Tomorrow will be the big reveal episode - the bachelor will be revealed to all, the finalists he has chosen will be revealed and the identities of the ladies that he didnt pick will be revealed as well. I expect that things will get even hotter if that's possible. Many many thanks to everyone for the comments and especially to Snazzy & Soul for their in-depth analysis. There were many calls from the bachelorettes to edit their responses as i saw fit and of course i have chosen not to do that at all. Now with this particular question, he asked the ladies to describe themselves in detail and to help along he asked are you an introvert/extrovert. These ladies really went to town and i am so excited because i can truly get a picture of who each of these ladies is now. So here goes:

The Bachelor asked: Describe yourself in detail. What kind of person do you think you are? Are you an introvert or extrovert?

Bachelorette 1:

I am a constant reflection of my environment yet I never fail to stand out. I have been described as a walking paradox but I think this enables most people to find something interesting about me as I am multifaceted. I dont want to go on too much about how i look because I would rather attract you with what you can glean from my character than how I look - besides I could very well lie. That being said, I am sexy as hell and quite vivacious. I pride myself on being fun and interesting. Life with me would never be boring.

Bachelorette 2:

I’m like a special-edition multiple-coated bar of Magnum ice-cream – there are lots of delicious layers to me, each waiting to be discovered and savoured… I’ll say one thing for myself… I never get boring. There are a lot of contradictions in my personality:

deep and intense but also easygoing and light-hearted,
silly and playful but mature,
a bit crazy and slightly eccentric but also responsible,
philosophical but also real and down-to-earth,
intuitive and spontaneous but also a planner,
sweet but sometimes very, very sarcastic,
mild-mannered but also full of spice,
quiet but strong and gutsy,
organized but scattered,
spiritual but sensual,
argumentative but peaceful,
a thinker but also a very physical person,
understated but also a free spirit,
tough but also tender-hearted,
naughty and sometimes slightly outrageous but also very nice,
sometimes controversial but also your girl-next-door,
dynamic but also a bit conventional,
a ‘homebody’ but also very outdoorsy,
absent-minded but passionate,
mild but also very sassy when I’m in the mood,
shy but bold,
a realist but an optimist,
a total klutz but very composed,
purposeful (or ‘strong-headed’ as we prefer to put it in Naija) but also open to advice from people I respect,
calm but very impatient (when I want something I usually want it like yesterday),
very focused but also very indecisive sometimes,
serious when the occasion demands but also very fun-loving,
so simple but oh-so-complex…

I would definitely consider myself a people person, although I’m neither gregarious nor particularly outgoing. I love being with people, watching (not stalking) people, listening to (more than talking to, actually – but not when they don’t know when to shut their big mouths) people, interacting with people, and studying people; finding out who they are and what makes them tick. Most people’s first impression of me is that I’m rather quiet and shy – and to an extent they’re right, but there’s a lot more to me.

I am very creative and imaginative. I’m also a perfectionist – I like to do what I’m really good at and I like to be the best. This can be very bad because it means that when I discover I’m not too great at something, I tend not to stick with it.

I hate confrontation! It’s one of my biggest flaws because I find myself taking a lot of crap from people sometimes, all because I want to avoid getting into a fight with them. I’m working on that, though!

There is a part of me that is intensely personal and a bit mysterious, that I like to keep under wraps and expose only to those who know me very well.

Bachelorette 3:

Can I fully describe myself?
Let me try.

Reserved:
Not one to start to a converation, but once I get into the conversation, I can be a good gist partner. I like to listen to people,I believe you can learn from everyone,I am observant and sensitive. I am a more of an introvert but if I am with people I am comfortable with I can be a bit more outgoing and chatty,totally diferent from quiet me.Composed.

Crazy:
My motto is try anything at least once! Because of my demure manner many people underestimate me and truly I like that! I like it when I see the surprise on their faces; Craziness is a combination of spontantiety and creativity. I'm unafraid to dare. I am very,very,very adventuorous and I will do and give the unexpected any day.

Humour
I'm not the king's jester, but I find humour in everything. This has helped me to get through the diffcult situations. Laughter is an amazing medicine for the soul. I love to laugh, joke and fool around.

Caring
Sometimes I think this is a bad thing, in that I worry about other people too much. I truly feel other people's pain and share in their laughter and joys too. I am concerned about what you are doing and will help a great deal. I also like to cater to my man, in every way, he may need.

Stubborn
You can't walk all over me - I am a tough cookie. You can't get me to change my mind very easily, you have to truly persuade me and I must be totally and absolutely convinced.Often times, I like to have it my way, but for one I truly love I might bend a bit. I have this I don't care what you say or think, this is me, accept me attitude

Bachelorette 4:

I am outgoing; I love to meet people and make friends. I like travelling and spending time with people who appreciate me + having loads of fun. I also like to read and love music. Part of my weekends are spent at the jazz hole or bluescafe listening to good poetry and music.. I enjoy road trips and need no reason to jump in the car and drive for hours just because someone in Maine which is a 5hr drive from home said they have the best clam chowder!! I am in touch with my inner child and I enjoy going to theme parks (I love 6 flags and I have been on most of the rides...LOL). I love talking or chatting.. no TALKING... I love to talk about all kinds of topics including the 'taboos', I love learning new things and I am not afraid to say "I dont know" if I have no clue what is going on!!

Bachelorette 5:

I am outgoing BUT the first time I meet somebody, I am very reserved. I think it's my way of sizing people up, I don't know.
I have definitely calmed down a bit although I still have my days when I am so full of energy, you'd think I'm on 'something', SERIOUSLY!
I have been told I am funny, I see people laugh at things I say and I wonder why(especially when I am being serious)! It does amuse me when I see this though.

Bachelorette 6:

I can be both introverted and extroverted...I am somewhat quiet when you first meet me, but those who know me know me, and know that I ain't. I am seen as quiet and dainty but a bit opposite when you get used to me, not that I am wild just very down to earth and a bit on the mad side contrary to what you may perceive when you look at me.

Bachelorette 7:

Who am i? I am a sister, a friend, a daughter, a lover, a fighter, a dreamer, a confidant, an artist, a dancer, a chef, a thinker, a listener, a joker, a writer and a poet...lol....But, to describe myself, in more words, I'll say, I Am an extrovert, very personable, but I can be shy and moody at times, especially around people I don't vibe with. Im hardworking and dependable, even though I have my lazy moments as well, especially when I drift off to dreamland; im a fun person, always laughing, but im also sensitive, especially when it comes to matters and things that are dear to me. I am very independent; I can be stubborn, and opinionated, at times, but im not inflexible. Im very versatile, intuitive, and observant; sometimes to the point of being nosy...lol. Im very passionate and affectionate, an incurable romantic, but life, and experience has given me a cynical edge as well. I am generous, sometimes to a fault, but generally, im an easy-going, even tempered woman.

Mystery Lady:

I am me - with a public and private side. In public, I am a lady in every sense of the word. I am polite even to the most obnoxious people, I carry myself with class and dignity, legs crossed at all times, never a hair out of place. I will smile and carry on conversations about anything and everything. Now my private side - the side that comes out with people that i am very comfortable with is loud and boisterous. Likes to be the center of attention. I am opinionated and very passionate about things that are dear to me. I can be very intense and can be moody as well but these periods dont last for too long. Most people would describe me as being introverted. I dont agree. I just dont see the need to talk all the time or put myself out there if i dont feel truly comfortable.