Monday, June 11, 2007

On Human Behavior

I find that i learn so much by being quiet and watching and listening to people. During my retreat this weekend, there came a point when the various teams took to presenting which meant - we listened and got ready to grill them. I observed a number of things:
  • People find it really hard to disagree politely. A difference of opinion is shouted and done in such a dismissive fashion, its almost insulting.
  • This in turn seems to get personal. I mean - one minute its a disagreement on a point, the next its digs at people
  • Nigerians are largely still tribalistic - seeming more comfortable to group themselves by tribe..and with this, the "personalities" of the tribes came through.
  • Kiss ass behavior is really really nauseating

Its amazing what one can pickup by just watching. I was bemused, angered and saddened by a lot of the things that i noticed that were and never will be said but which were glaring to me. Especially the tribalism issue. Therefore i ask, will Nigeria ever truly be united?

Just some randomness .....

10 comments:

Ugo Daniels said...

Honestly, i don't think so. We can try of course but NIgerians uniting and start seeing themselves as Nigerians and not Igbo, Hausa, Yoruba, etc.

In my school, it's so apparent. Girls from the north don't date guys from the East and Vice-Versa, though, i personally got around that...hahaha. I'm a baller..lawl!

I guess it's a mentality, fixed one that should be totally denounced in all it's entirety!

'Nuff said!

Music Child said...

Lovin culture club o! O the great 80's! What happen eh, remba WHAM, tears for fear and my fav Go west, saw the video of king of wishful thinking yest and went mad! Love love ur blog:)

O yeah, Nigeria is def very tribalistic, I catch myself doing it too! we have to promote change, I see your a people watcher

boorish male said...

Nigerian society is sill very primitive in my view.

DiAmOnD hawk said...

i dont think so... but this is something you see across several cultures.... you tend to stick to what you know... and what you know is what you're more comfortable with...

as far as the disagreement issue... even i have to check myself sometimes on that...

snazzy said...

interesting post. though I wonder if a bunch of FSI cats are representative of the population (I hope not, otherwise...). Anyway nice one... for a consultant (sorry couldn't resist). Laters.

Sherri said...

hey girl, just curious, any reason why u could not speak up? u don't strike me as one to turn a blind eye.

Anonymous said...

I'm still trying to learn to disagree politely

SET said...

I think people have a lot of different opinios all over the world yet united by law and civil enough to argue with respect of the other. Overall this is so but there are still a few who take it to the extreme and we tend to do that a lot in our region. hmmmm we are trying to get to this place of discreet.

Kpakpando said...

i don't nigeria is ever going to be one nigeria... i think we were set up for failure and with each generation reinforcing these ideas to the next and refusing to learn/open their eyes we will continue to fail.

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