Wednesday, February 14, 2007


Keep love in your heart.
A life without it is like a sunless garden
When the flowers are dead
The consiousness of loving
And being loved brings
A warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring
Oscar Wilde

Happy Valentines Day!

I love this day. I just love its significance. I love all the red in the air. I love the anticipation. I love the over the top nature of the day. I love it. I just do.

My song of the day is a bit controversial because i know so many young women that cant stand it:

Destiny's Child - Cater to you

But i adore this song. I am not a Beyonce fan but i am able to put aside my dislike for her to appreciate a good song.

I am a giver and have always been and i see absolutely nothing wrong with catering to my lover. I expect to be catered to as well. To do things for each other that you will bring a smile to the other's face. Making yourself a little uncomfortable for the other person. Of course the part of the song that says "tap me on the shoulder and i'll roll over" is a bit much but the idea behind the song gets to me.

Love is such a wonderful thing. I dont like feet except my own but in love, i will give him a pedicure. I will fly halfway across the world to suprise him just because. All of a sudden in love, there is that extra care that i take to make sure i look cute. Even if i am in joggers and a tee shirt, there will be a little extra care taken in making sure they at least match - LOL. Let's not get started on the letters and text messages. Corny stuff like mixed cds, cards and gifts for no reaso....Ahhhh. The insanity of love.

My point though is to not want to cater to your lover in one way or the other seems a bit odd to me. Love is not a competition, its not about power plays, who is weaker or stronger, its not about feminism or chauvinism. Its just 2 people hooked on each other. And if in the course of the relationship, he decides to paint my toenails or i decide to wear a Manchester United Jersey to bed because he gets some kind of kick out of it, i promise i wont tell anyone. It will just be between us, about us - doing the things that come naturally to us because we are in love.

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LondonBuki said...

Uzo, how do you do this?!?!?! Your words (almost) always have an impact on me...

I love this post and I am going to read it again!

Happy Valentine's Day :-)

Anonymous said...

honestly, this post rily got me, bt what r we single pple goin to do now, well, i guess we'l hav 2 cater 2 ourselves then. luv d post and the song, personally thnk dat was a good choice 4 a day like dis.

happy valentine's day!!!!

Soul said...

ahhh Uzo,

Loving you would be a sin, because it would be the most indulgent thing ever.. like triple layer chocolate cake.. covered with vanilla and chocolate sauce.

I can imagine you being ..hmmm,how do I say this.. 'rich and indulgent'.

Babs' House said...

Nice one Uzo.

I so much agree with - ' It will just be between us, about us - doing the things that come naturally to us because we are in love.'

TaureanMinx said...

I guessssssssss lol.But really I am like you. A naturally giving person and end up getting trampled on a lot by people. So I'm not as soft anymore on the outside but im still in there really as long as I'm catered to too, i'm as soft as a puppy.

Jaycee said...

I like the fact that it's not a one-sided catering, cos u expect ur man to cater to as well. Both parties shd cater to each other. A problem may arise if the woman is the one always catering, catering, and catering some more (with the man not doing jack).

Happy vals day sweeriee...enjoy the moment.

Daddy's Girl said...

Wow. This is beautiful. I love the way you write. Happy Valentine's Day.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

I love that quote.. and this post... you write beautifully Uzo.. I agree with Soul.. anybody who loves you is the luckiest man alive

Bella Naija said...

Uzo...girl u r such a romantic!
Anyways, I luv this post - you made a lot of great points!
Happy Vals Day girl....ciao

zaiprincesa said...

im feeling this....Happy Vals day Uzo!

Anonymous said...

just read your archives and noticed you're a 24 fan too. I'm addicted to 24. Cant wait for the whole season 6 pack to be out in june

Calabar Gal said...

Happy Valentine's Day dearie!!!

Uzo said...

@LB: Words are powerful arent they? Hope you had a good day

@Anon: Self love has to come first....

@Soul: Now those are some serious words. Thank you. Decadence huh? Nice

@Bab's House: Thanks

@TMinx: All it takes is the love of a good person to bring out the softness in us all

@Jaycee: It has to be 2-sided. It cant be any other way.

@DGirl: Thanks a lot

@ONB: Thanks a lot miss sexy legs.

@Bella Naija: Tell me about it. i am a hopeless romantic

@Zai: Thanks ma

@Babsbeta: Huge 24 fan. Cant wait for season 6 as well

@Calabar gal: Hope you had a good day

LondonBuki said...

Ummm... 24 season 6 is on here :-)

I love 24 too.

So far, so good ;-)