Monday, July 23, 2007

Can you?

This saturday, i attended one of the wedding ceremonies of an old friend of mine with a couple of friends. She is christian (although her family was muslim for generations. Her father converted to christianity and so they are all christians) and he is muslim. So last saturday was the Nikkai and reception and next saturday is the white wedding and reception.

My friend Ms Y and I has a pretty interesting conversation on the way to the event about unions of different faiths.

So i ask- can you marry someone outside your faith? Not restricting this to muslim/christian unions. Any combination will do. Can you marry outside your faith?

15 comments:

Ugo Daniels said...

Well, it's a tricky question. Truth be told, my best physically relationship till date was with a muslim girl in my school. There's this thing about her that makes relationships so easy and smooth sailing. Marriage, on hte other hand, is a whole ball game. Even IF i want to take it the whole nine yards, there are so many factors that'll dictate otherwise, like parents and limitations.

Nyemoni said...

One answer... NO I can't... I believe that worshipping together binds a family.. It's personal of course, but No, I wouldn't have thought of it as an option.

dede said...

I usually don't leave comments but I have to on this one.

I am a muslim and my husband is a devout christian(Catholic). Whenever issues of differences come about(religion, ethnicity, xtian denomination etc), I always tell people to have an open mind .

I grew up as a muslim reading the Quran and all and when I met my husband he was everything I have always wanted in a partner and more but the only difference was his religion.

My religion didn't bother him and his didn't bother me. Our daughter goes to church and I have nothing against it.
When we stand and pray together in the morning b4 we leave for the day and b4 we go to bed,I pray in my religion, he says Amen (even if he doesn't understand what I am saying, he knows I mean well for the family)and when he does his I say Amen too.

There is someone out there for everyone, I suggest not to close the door on that person because of differences that could have worked out in the end.

Vickii said...

I really don't know, my immediate instinct was to say no and then I read Dede's comment and realised that in all honesty, if we both respected each other's religions then it could work ....

I don't know, I'm still inclined to say no.

What about you Uzo, could you?

catwalq said...

I am open to whatever God brings my way. I am an Eckist and so, that already puts me in a faith of the minority and not of popular acceptance.
As long as the two of you agree to respect the spiritual space of the other and you are kosher on which path to take the kids on, things should be fine. God who made us all different loves us still the same.

My 2 cents said...

Nope!!!
And this might come off wrong, but I wane to boarding school up north and I still bear the scars of the foolishness called a religious riot.

classybabe said...

I am open-minded to it,but i still pray to God that i marry a muslim-it just makes things less complicated

SET said...

YES AS LONG AS THAT PERSON DOESN'T TRY TO CHANGE ME. AND THEN OUR KIDS WILL BE RAISED HOWEVER WE CAN AGREE AND THEY CAN CHOOSE. IT'S CRAZY BUT IT CAN WORK.

Waffarian said...

Yeah, I think I can, cos I am quite open, as far as the person is willing to be "open" as well, I guess it will work.

By the way, Uzo, just read the post about your accident, did not read it at all before I put up the "series" comment, did not even realize that I had put it on your blog cos I do not think I have been here before, so please accept my sincere apology,I am glad you are fine.

A Kel called Wonder ...... said...

My answer would be NO! simple!

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

I've never really thought about it before now... but I will forever be a christian... if they're in a religion I can understand... a muslim for example... then if i love them... i could do that(and let everybody just do them.. and keep an open mind about things) but if they were into some traditional jujuic stuff.. um... 'whats love got to do with it?'.. i certainly wouldnt want to wake up each morning to somebody chanting my name clutching my photograph and sporadically jumping into calabashes of water.. i reject it in JESUS name! AMEN

Uzo said...

And my view on this? I would if i loved him enough to consider forever with him. We would have to consider so many things including how our kids will be raised but the answer is yes.

However, like overwhelmed put it, i would draw the line at Voodoo, Juju, Santaria etc....

Morountodun said...

You ask the question about marriage to someone of a different faith/religion. What if the person had no religion - was agnostic? Is that better or worse?

Uzo said...

Wow....I would rather you stand for something than for nothing. Being agnostic would not even be an issue because i wouldnt date him let alone get to the point of considering marriage...

I think that faith defines who you are, what you believe in, how you live your life, the choices you will make...The core of who you are. Its important to me that there is belief in something

kokolette said...

quite a risky decision...because its important that you both believe in the same thing
but then again...what if he's all you need in a partner?
I personally don't think I would do it...just from peoples experiences that I've seen